When you have a c-section you aren’t supposed to lift anything for 6 weeks to avoid ripping stitches. There are no such restrictions when you have a vaginal birth. However, every time I lift/carry something heavy (Max in particular) I seem to re-injure what I assume is a pulled/strained muscle? Tendon? It crosses my abdomen in a similar place to where one would have a c-section scar, though it is more toward my left hip. I first noticed it after I tried to carry Max upstairs the first day we were home (man that kid is heavy compared to a 9lb baby!) but I have hurt it trying to get up off the floor with the baby too. M has forbidden me from lifting things—he mostly picks up Max, carries baby’s carseat, and groceries etc. It’s annoying not to be able to do normal things, but I am grateful for M around so I can heal.
Yesterday Marshall and I went to the breastfeeding support group again. We were having still some problems with latch, though I think I realized a lot of it had to do with the boppy pillow—I switched back to this one, which I had with Max, and it works better. I hate the behind the back strap thing, but the flatter surface is more supportive. I actually did not retain anything the lactation consultant said about our latch for some reason, but I did glean two things: there exist better flanges for breast pumps than the ones I have, and it is ok to give Mars a soothie pacifier.
With Max I did not try to give him a paci until 6 weeks old because I had read so many things about it causing nipple confusion. I don’t know if it was the delay or just his personality but by 6 weeks he was NOT interested in any pacifier (or bottle). My mom eventually got him to take a bottle, and at 3 months old just as I was about to give up I discovered he loves this wildly expensive pacifier which unfortunately disintegrates at a rate of 1-3 months depending on whether he is teething and thus chewing on it. He is still very addicted to his “paa” which is an expensive habit. After the go ahead from the lactation consultant, I realized the main concern with the nipple confusion being that baby will use the pacifier instead of sucking on the breast you might not make enough milk. I tend to make too much, so this really isn’t an issue for us. In fact, sometimes when Mars just wants to suck he gets mad because he gets too much milk when he doesn’t really want any. Little man has no qualms about accepting a $2 paci.
Pacis are a double edged sword—they are soothing, but for a good 6 months or more babies can’t get them back in their mouths and you end up constantly sticking them back in. Plus there is also the issue of how to get rid of it, which I will have to address with Max in the next year.
Finally, I had several people recommend milkies to me, and I have to say it’s awesome, although I have a couple complaints about the design. The good: it catches all the milk that dribbles out of the side you aren’t using so you can use it later. I now have saved 3 oz of milk without pumping and only sometimes remembering to use it. The bad: The top is open and it’s really skinny, so once you are done it is awkward because you can’t just put it down, but your hands are full of baby. A couple times I have forgotten it’s there and leaned over to put Marshall down or pick something up and poured breastmilk all over the place. I pretty much need M around to hand it off when I’m done.